Bringing Boredom to an Art Form: Dolce Far Niente

So unemployment is getting kinda boring. Don’t get me wrong, I have some amazing days browsing the shops, immersing myself in a good book, and hanging out with Birdy when he is free; but I also have days where I feel like the grey matter that is my brain is going to slowly leak out through my nostrils in a most unbecoming manner. Having time to pursue the finer things is awesome, but having to much time is not so good. I find myself obsessing over some really dumb sh*t.

I’ve had a few interviews that I felt went really well, but nothing yet. I know I need to be patient (not a strong point of mine) and positive, but sometimes it is disheartening. I need to go back to work. I need structure, I need to feel more in control of my life, and I need to feel the independence making my own money gives me. In the meantime, I also want to maximize the joys of unemployment LOL. So today I though’t I’d tell you about the Italian concept of “Dolce Far Niente”, where lying around and just being fabulous is taken to an art form. I think there is something to be said for it. Dolce Far Niente can be translated into “sweets doing nothing,” and believe it or not, is quite a popular theme in art. Don’t believe me? Let me show you:

This one, by one of my favorite artists, John William Waterhouse, bares a remarkable resemblance to yours truly.

The famous Flaming June by Frederic Leighton.

I’m sure you will recognize this one, La Grande Odalisque, by Jean Auguste Dominique Ingres. This one couldn’t even be bothered to get dressed. Putting on the head piece was just too much.

I’m not 100% sure, but I think this beauty is a Klimt.

As you can see, this is not just a passing fancy of the old masters. Here is an example from 2008 by Michael Klein.
So do you believe me now? Let’s take this idea and run with it, shall we? Being a sweet doing nothing is obviously an artistic pursuit, and it is one that I think deserves a little exploration LOL. It’s not actually just about sleeping in glamorous settings, its about savoring the mundane and making it beautiful. It’s about enjoying a little nap in the middle of the day, indulging in an ice cream without worrying about your thighs, and generally just taking life at a slow and luxurious pace. And when you do it, you must do it in a way which is completely unapologetic. Make it your art!

How? Let me give you some ideas, as I am kind of an expert:

  • Savor an expensive box of chocolates that you were saving for a special occasion when you are all alone (sharing isn’t allowed).  Eat it slowly, enjoying every delicious morsel.
  • Take a luxurious bubble bath. Lock the door. Disconnect your phone.
  • Call in sick from work — that’s what sick days are really for, and spend the day doing something you love. Maybe have a spa day!
  • Read something with absolutely no literary merit like a trashy romance novel.
  • Admire yourself in the mirror.

Come on my lovelies, I know you can do it. Make your life your art! 


  1. I feel like I’ve been honing this particular art since I was about 17! As a adult, parent, wife and sometimes (not so successfully) an employee I have been all in favour of laying around, savouring the moment, eating good stuff πŸ˜‚Lovely post!

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  2. So interesting you should bring this topic up… it also came up after our therapy appointment yesterday. I will write about it later on my blog, but in the meantime, ‘Dolce Far Niente’ has become my new prescription for dealing with my health problems. I decided that I was no longer going to let anyone (especially BE) make me feel guilty for doing things that de-stress me. Things that obliterate the anxiety, things that bring me back to health. Things like sketching, watching tennis on television during the day, lounging about listening to the sounds of spring… sounds like the neighbor’s wind chimes, or the birds playing in their bath outside my window (my kind of meditation–it may look like I am doing nothing, but I’m not), reading, and NOT cleaning up after people, not making meals for people, basically doing ONLY what I really want to do. I feel lighter and freer already. Ironically, BE has now decided this new “state” is depression, or melancholy. He is wrong. He is going to need to learn to adapt to me now. It has been the other way around for too long. Thanks for this, C. Love you. ❀

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    1. Love you too ❀️❀️❀️❀️❀️
      I think you are so used to being a mom and a wife and doing nice things for everyone. Life is short my dear, and there has to be some special stuff for you too. Time to smell the flowers and eat the beignets… That’s where I come in πŸ˜‰ I’m so glad you are trying to take time for the stuff that YOU enjoy. Do whatever makes your heart smile, and do it without apologies πŸ’‹

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