Wassup? From The Royal We

Lavender lattes: it’s a full blown obsession now. I have to figure out how to make them.

Sorry I haven’t written much lately. Sometimes life just isn’t all that exciting and so there is no point boring anyone with the minutiae. All is well. Next month I should have a fabulous post to write. I am super looking forward to seeing Crazy Kat in Portland (I’ve never been that far west before), and hopefully there will be  a little excursion into Seattle as well. I adore CK, and I always have the best time in her company. If you read my blog regularly, you know how much I love to travel. I try to see a new place every year, it’s one of my goals. Food, art, and travel; these are my passions in life. When I travel, I usually get to satisfy all three, so there is really nothing I anticipate more than a holiday away from my little cubicle at work. And anticipation? In my book, that’s half the fun.

Things are going well at work. I have a new boss. She started several weeks ago, and so far she seems absolutely lovely.  It’s a pleasure working with her. My new team that I got moved to is awesome too. It’s all good in the hood. I actually just celebrated my two year anniversary with the company. That’s a record for me since being back in Florida. Truth be told, however, I’m feeling kind of burnt out. Work has been trying, and a break is long overdue.

So what else? Well I went on a few dates. Nobody worth pursuing romantically, but I did meet a guy who I developed a friendship with. He is very sweet, I just didn’t feel any sparks. I want sparks.  I’m not going to settle. I’d rather be alone than with the wrong man, and being alone is no longer feeling as burdensome as it used to. So this guy, I’m not terribly attracted to him, and his life situation is not conducive to a relationship, but he makes for an awesome friend. We text often and go out to eat every once in a while. It’s nice to having company and to  have someone I can be a bit silly with, but that’s all it is. We don’t do anything more than hug. This time around I’m a lot more selective. Do you know what else? These days I just tell a guy if I’m not feeling anything. Before I used to be so afraid of not hurting anyone’s feelings. Now I just tell them in the kindest way I know how, that I don’t want to pursue anything. And do you know what? I learned that most men appreciate this. Honesty really is the best way to go. From personal experience, I learned that there are few things worse than having your emotions toyed with, so this is why I force myself to be direct. Life is too short to do otherwise. I guess this means I’m learning to value myself better.

I guess you can say that these days I’m dating myself. I try to follow what makes ME happy, and frankly, I’m pretty freaking good at it. I might just be my best boyfriend evvvvvaaaaa. In fact, just yesterday I took myself out for the most delicious lavender latte at a charming little local tea shop called The Modern Rose. And today we (and I use the word “we” in the sense of the royal we) are going to the movies. I am going to watch Crazy Rich Asians – as we are in the mood for something silly and light hearted. There might be some chocolate covered Godiva macaroons involved (my favorite Scooby snack). Hey … come on… might???? You know they totally are involved LOL.

So anyway, just saying hi. Haven’t forgotten you. Didn’t slip into a black hole in the blogosphere… just laying low a bit. What have you been up to?

Tons of love,



  1. 13 days and counting. Whoop whoop!!! How was the movie? Can’t wait to see you. There will be Pok Pok Wings 🐥 Voodoo Donuts 🍩 (🤪) Food Carts 🌮 chocolate chip cookies 🍪 fancy Russian afternoon tea ☕️ Beach House 🌊 Seattle Space Needle 🏙 Chihuly glass garden ✨ and so much more!!! ❤️❤️❤️

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    1. You are the most amazing friend ♥️♥️♥️ I feel so lucky and happy, you have no idea. I am so looking forward to coming to see you. I know we are going to have the best time. I so appreciate everything you do for me, really. You are the best!!!
      Tons of love
      P.s. I’m going to have (try) to pace myself LOL. I can totally imagine not fitting in my work clothes when I get back. My thighs are getting fatter just thinking of all this fun 😝 … ah well, let the games begin!

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    2. P.s. movie was cute and fun, I don’t think it’s the sort of thing that I would say you MUST go see, it’s just a bit of entertainment and escapism. Funny and sweet but it’s not going to go down as a favorite.

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  2. How’s the boss going? Still well?
    And I think keeping it real is the right thing. Why waste anyone’s time? I would appreciate it too. Maybe those kind of open conversations allow for platonic friendships. Or not. But at least it’s the right thing.


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