Self Care Sunday

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So truth is that I had a shitty week. Really shitty. My mom hasn’t been well (I kind of loathe to get into it, I find it kind of scary and embarrassing to talk about), work has been breaking my back (nothing earth shattering, but you know that can suck), and I have been feeling overlooked. I know we all feel this way sometimes. Different problems of course, but we all have moments where we need a pick me up. We all need to be reminded of who we REALLY are: powerful, beautiful, and limitless beings. 

Here are five ways that I tried to work on that today:

Awesome music: I have music that suits all my moods. There is some stuff that I listen to that’s totally hard and kick ass, some that’s goth and moody, and some that makes me feel very feminine and spiritual. We all have different tastes and different sides to our personality. One thing is the same for all of us though: music is some powerful ass magic. Sometimes you gotta put on your headphones (Bose, dear), block out the rest of the world, and loose yourself in sound. Just totally feel it. Immerse yourself into it. FEEL it. BE it. Dance if your wishes move you. Take your music out for walk or a run in nature if you are feeling it.  It’s all good.

I ate good food: Now, I’m not talking about bingeing, though we all know I am not averse to that (goddesses don’t regulate themselves, after all). What I’m talking about eating food that is good for you, but also delicious. A coconut macaroon won’t kill ya either dollies, not when they are from Godiva. Aside from my sugar laden Scooby Snack of choice though, today I also indulged in thick Greek yogurt covered in  a luxurious sweet honey that I’ve been saving for something special, and some incredibly tasty avocado toast with juicy tomatoes. Who doesn’t love avocados, right? I drink my special tea that I adore, and I just savor the flavors. 

I was selfish with my time: There are moments where everyone needs to kinda fuck off. They might be fabulous, but fuck off they must. And then there are people who really don’t deserve your energies. You know who I’m talking about. You are totally thinking about someone right now, aren’t you LOL? Sometimes you need to be selfish and be all about you, because we both know, nobody else will do this for you. Turn off your phone. Maybe lock the door to your room. Or maybe just get out. Today I became invisible for a while (though honestly, I don’t think anyone noticed–that sorta sucks, but whatevs).

I took a bath. Maybe it is because I’m a water sign, but there are few things so soothing as a nice bath (with a ridiculously overpriced scented candle—Walmart can kiss my ass. Frugality has no place when it comes to self care.) Bubbles or bath oil. It’s all good. Sometimes I lie there, just kind of motionless and feel the warm water around me. Sometimes I listen to guided meditations on YouTube. Just follow whatever your heart wants. Maybe some cookies? I don’t know, just sayin.’ If the crumbs get in the tub, it’s no biggie, they will all just go down the drain, so actually, it’s really pretty genius.

I made a face mask. When I was in NYC I stopped in one of my favorite little shops: Kalustyan’s. I’m not sure how I describe the place. It’s kind of like a witch’s cupboard of the weird and wonderful. It is a food store, but it sells these magical ingredients that you just won’t find anywhere else. This time, one of the unusual ingredients I purchased was Organic Rose Petal Powder… Now what would I do what that? Well I’m kind of obsessed with rose as a flavor, so I bought it, and I decided I’d figure it out later. After doing a bit of research I decided to make a face mask out of it. Supposedly, it is a natural skin toner. I mixed the rose petal powder and honey (full of antioxidants) to form a thick dark colored paste and slathered it onto my skin (after I tried to taste it … yeah, really). I left it on for a good 20 minutes, and then washed it off. Rinsing it off with water is a bit messy. But do you know what? It actually produced great results. I wouldn’t lie to you on this. My skin felt felt very soft and looked very fresh and healthy in a way that it does not normally. I am going to make this a weekly habit, as it feels quite indulgent, and I adore self care. If you can find this crazy ingredient, try it out for yourself. 

I want to also try adding little spoon of the powder into hot chocolate. Would it be as yummy as I imagine? Watch this space.

I think its super important to discuss how we pull ourselves out of negativity rather than wallow in it. Feelings are like visitors, they come and go, but sometimes the yucky ones will want to hang out just a bit too long if you invite them to tea. So let’s talk about this my lovelies, how do you vanquish the nasties?


  1. Spending time with pop-in friends (my favorite kind) over wine>Turkish coffee or mint tea with pine nuts on top, a plate of kaak warka/stollen/amaretto cake/panetonne (something not too sweet but very flavourful), on my front porch (covered with grape vines that are filled with white lights), and a few cigarettes.

    That’s my bad habit/indulgence. I could be a crack head… but instead, I smoke a few cigarettes and indulge in strong, hot beverages and baking lightly-sweetened, foreign pastries. 😛 My porch is honestly a refuge for many good, pop-in friends. We can hide in the grape vines and enjoy our petty indulgences while discussing what shit we’ve stumbled into recently. LOL

    I also love using flower waters. I keep a bottle of orange-blossom water to spritz my face with… it works so well: lifts my spirits and feels so refreshing on my skin. I make the kaak warka with a stronger kind (that I bought in Zaghouan, Tunisia this past summer) and rose water is used by me AND the children in every glass or bottle of water.

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    1. Okay I totally want to come sit on the porch with you and eat sweets!!! Since u like floral flavors like I do, one time I went to a Moroccan restaurant in Paris and they added orange flower water into their teA, it was so lovely. You should try it.
      P.s. we are all allowed to have our vices… you are totally right, it’s better than crack LOL 😘♥️


      1. Yes! Our next-door neighbors are Moroccan, my dearest friend is Tunisian-French, her husband is Egyptian, and we have many Syrian and Lebanese friends as well… and Indian friends who like to remind everyone else that THEIR OWN biryani is the best! LOL. We have ALL the tasty things and so many great conversations while enjoying them! ❤

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      2. Our other friend-neighbors will be here quite a bit all week, as their friends are visiting. My friend has from-Ireland Irish parents and is married to a man from Queens, who grew up here in NY but was born in Argentina. His best friend from childhood and *his* girlfriend, who’s visiting from Germany, are up for the week. We’re going to have ourselves a little Oktoberfest. 😛 BUT I make a MEAN Irish creme and it’s SNOWING here already… so that will definitely be making an appearance.

        We are bound and determined to seize all the good moments in life and choke out the bad ones. Almost never is anything planned… people just stop in and want to stay, then start inviting *their* friends. It’s a winning strategy, so far! 😉 And yes, I’m sure you’d fit right in.

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      1. Yeah. Today is day 15. All the traveling and planes and walking. Yesterday I was supposed to rest, but I didn’t. I harvested my figs, went out to the farm, went to a soccer game… plus jet lag, so waking up super early. I’m resting today. I have 4 days until we get on another plane. The cough is horrible. 😭

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  2. I hope your week got better. ❤️

    Sometimes I go crazy cleaning my house to feel like I have control and organization. Lol

    Sometimes I get a haircut or do my nails.

    Sometimes I go workout and sweat it out.

    Sometimes a long drive with the windows down on a sunny day does wonders. (Drive down to the keys. When you get past the turnpike and start seeing the water… Magic.)

    Other times just quality time with my loved ones.

    And sometimes only a cry and a book or a movie or phone session with my best friend.


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    1. I wish I was the type who exercised for a pick me up LOL… that would NEVER be me. Maybe I’d eat a burger in front of a gym. Does that count?

      Oh and I like to spend money.

      I really want to go to the Keys. Can you believe I’ve never been?

      So right… sometimes u do just need a good cry. And a nap.

      We have to hang out one of these days. I’d love to meet you.


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